Authored by: dre_a on Monday, June 01 2009 @ 04:49 AM CDT

let's also remember that this was probably healing article for the individual(s) involved because of the rethinking of boundaries within non-monogamy. more dialogue and check-ins are usually required for building those relationships, and jealousies (for instance one partner's insistence of "sexual assault" bringing up this need for definitions in the first place) can pop up even within the most open spaces.

what I gathered from the author's voice is that this was an article to address the internal struggle they faced as a possible assaulter, especially coming from a place of being 5'2", and though unclear, possibly a female bodied person. while defining it for themselves/community in a public forum, they are offering advise through their experience. It's important to take what you want from the article and see what fits within your relationships.

if this amount of consent discussion ain't your thang, whatevs. you probably won't be in a relationship with this type of person(or you may be in a relationship with them and not know it because they may feel shut down by your judgement) but please respect other people's needs and processes.

let's all do it and do it and do it well.

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